Feederism

Stretch Marks

Stretch marks as a kink refers to sexual or aesthetic attraction to stretch marks on a partner's or one's own body. Stretch marks (striae) are lines or streaks that form on skin when it expands or contracts rapidly, commonly appearing on the abdomen, thighs, hips, breasts, and upper arms. Within the feederism category, this attraction is often linked to weight gain, as gaining body fat is one of the most common causes of stretch marks. However, the kink is broader than feederism alone: some people are drawn to stretch marks independently of any weight-gain dynamic, appreciating them as a visual or tactile feature. The attraction can be primarily visual, involving the appearance of the marks, or tactile, involving touching, tracing, or kissing them. For others, stretch marks carry a symbolic appeal, representing body growth, change, or the history of a person's body. The kink can be experienced as admiration, arousal, or both, and it exists on a spectrum from mild preference to a central erotic focus.

What it's like

In practice, this kink most often shows up as heightened attention to the stretch marks on a partner's body during intimacy. A person with this attraction might spend time visually admiring the marks, tracing them with their fingers, or kissing or pressing their lips along them. The tactile experience is a draw for many, since stretch marks have a distinct texture, often slightly raised or indented compared to surrounding skin, that can feel pleasurable to both the person touching and, for many, the person being touched.

Within a feederism context, stretch marks can function as a visible record of weight gain, which is erotically significant for feeders and feedees who find the process of gaining itself arousing. In that dynamic, new or widening marks may be noticed and appreciated as milestones.

Outside of feederism, the appeal is often more straightforwardly aesthetic or body-positive: the marks are seen as attractive in their own right, connected to a broader appreciation of soft, full, or changed bodies.

Common variations include a preference for certain locations (abdomen, hips, thighs), certain colors (fresh red or purple marks versus older silver or white ones), or certain patterns (parallel lines, branching patterns). Some people also enjoy the role of affirming a partner's body when that partner has historically felt shame about their marks.

Safety & consent

The primary safety consideration here is emotional. Stretch marks carry significant cultural stigma, and a partner may have complicated feelings about their own marks before learning they are found attractive. Bring up this interest gently, making clear it comes from genuine appreciation rather than fetishization that reduces a person to a single feature. Ask before touching or commenting on a partner's body. If feederism dynamics are also involved, keep open, ongoing conversations about weight, body image, and any health considerations. Never pressure a partner to gain weight or to display their body in ways they find uncomfortable.

Common misconceptions

Getting started safely

  1. Start with honest self-reflection: identify whether the attraction is primarily visual, tactile, or tied to a weight-gain dynamic, since knowing this helps you communicate clearly with a partner.
  2. When bringing it up, frame it as something you find genuinely attractive rather than a "confession," and give your partner space to respond without pressure.
  3. Ask for explicit consent before touching or drawing attention to a partner's stretch marks, since many people carry insecurity about them and need to feel safe before the interaction can be positive for both of you.
  4. If feederism is also part of the picture, read up on that dynamic separately and have thorough conversations about limits, health considerations, and ongoing consent before any weight-gain elements are introduced.
  5. Take things slowly: start with verbal appreciation and see how your partner responds before making physical exploration of their stretch marks a regular part of intimacy.

Frequently asked questions

Is attraction to stretch marks considered a fetish or just a preference?

It sits on a spectrum. For some people it is a mild aesthetic preference, similar to preferring a certain hair color. For others it is a more central erotic focus that qualifies as a fetish. Neither end of the spectrum is inherently problematic as long as it involves consenting adults.

Does this kink always go together with feederism?

No. While stretch marks appear in the feederism category because weight gain is a common cause of them, many people are attracted to stretch marks from pregnancy, growth spurts, muscle gain, or simply genetics. The kink and feederism can overlap, but they are not the same thing.

How do I tell a partner I find their stretch marks attractive without making them feel uncomfortable?

Lead with affirmation rather than surprise. Letting a partner know you find their body attractive generally before zeroing in on a specific feature reduces the chance they will feel singled out or embarrassed. Gauge their reaction and follow their lead on how much detail to go into.

What if my partner is self-conscious about their stretch marks and finds it hard to believe I'm attracted to them?

This is common, given how much cultural messaging frames stretch marks as flaws. Patience and consistency help more than a single conversation. Continuing to express genuine appreciation over time, without pressuring your partner to perform comfort they don't feel, tends to be more effective than any one declaration.

Are there communities where people with this attraction connect?

Yes. Online spaces focused on body positivity, feederism, and fat admiration often include people who share this attraction. Forums, subreddits, and platforms dedicated to feederism or body appreciation are the most common places to find these communities.

Can someone develop this attraction over time, or is it always pre-existing?

Attractions can develop through experience, exposure, and association. Some people report noticing the attraction only after becoming intimate with a partner who had stretch marks. Others have been aware of it from early in their sexual development. Both patterns are reported and neither is unusual.

How to bring it up

  1. Prompt 1"I've been curious whether you'd be open to me talking about what I find attractive about your body, including things like your stretch marks, because I genuinely find them appealing."
  2. Prompt 2"I've noticed I'm really drawn to stretch marks, and I wanted to share that with you because it's something I find beautiful rather than something I'd ever want you to feel self-conscious about."
  3. Prompt 3"Would you feel comfortable if I told you some specific things I find attractive about your body? Stretch marks are one of them, and I want to make sure you know it comes from a place of real appreciation."

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